Conversational Guidelines

Courage is what it takes to stand up and speak; courage is also what it takes to sit down and listen. ~ Winston Churchill

Ahimsa – non-violence.  All posts must be written in the tone of non-violent communication.  If you are unfamiliar with non-violent communication, there are many resources available for you to learn a little about it.  To get started check here.

Satya – being with what is.  Seek first to understand.  Always assume good intentions.  Keep your posts within the context of culture relativity. Also truthfulness – speak of the experiences of YOUR heart, not what you’ve seen or assumed.  Speak of your own direct experience.  That is the only truth.

Asteya – non-stealing. Don’t take from people because they don’t understand, or see things differently than you do.  Don’t undermine a person’s feeling.

Brahmacharya – moderation, continence.  Choose your battles.  Picking apart everything a person says will not lead to more understanding.

Aparigraha – non-grasping.  Don’t hold your ideas so tightly.  Don’t assume everything you think is correct, or even that you will still think the same thing five or ten years from now.

Shaucha – purity.  Speak with kind and clear words.  Keep the integrity of your heart, and assume the integrity of others.

Santosha – contentment.  You can’t change everything.  Or even anything.  Allow the process to unfold, trust.  Find the joy in the fact that the conversation is happening.

Tapas – determination.  Stay with it.  Work through, even sit with, your discomfort, maybe there is something to learn by not giving up.

Svadhyaya – self-study, self – inquiry.  What is YOUR part in all of this?  Where do you need to transform or soften?

Ishvara Pranidhana – surrender to God.  Consider that there is some mystery to the way things unfold, and that you may not be around to see the ways in which your input has actually made change.  Let it go.  Trust.


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